September the 13th is RU OK? Day.
We are encouraged today to ask others are you OK? Go beyond that perfunctory "Hi, how are you?" Take the time to really ask.
We want to catch small problems before they become big ones. Sometimes people who are suffering with depression, who are feeling overwhelmed hide it very well and you would never know.
I have known too many people who are no longer here today. Mothers, children, friends who have shocked everyone by taking their own lives.
To get to that point where you think you have no other option, but to end it, must be a very dark place to be. Maybe if someone reaches out to them and really asks them if they are OK, lets them know that someone is thinking of them and are available for them. It just may make some people stop and rethink.
How to Ask R U OK?
- We are encouraged to listen without judgement.
- Ask caring questions and give them time to reply.
- Don't rush to solve problems, but just let them know that there is help and solutions available, when they are ready for it.
- Encourage them to take just one step, like seeing a doctor.
- Ask them if they need some help. Maybe they would like you to make the appointment or to go with them to the doctor as a bit of moral support.
If you are not OK today please
- Ask yourself who do I trust to talk to about my problems.
- Realise that there is help available.
- Make that appointment with the doctor.
- Remember that nothing changes until you act.
- Understand that is is all right to say no, I am not OK, and it is OK to ask for help.
- If things get urgent call a crisis line
Lifeline 13 11 14
Suicide Call Back Service 1300 794 991
Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800
1800 RUOKDAY (1800 7865 329) -This number connects you to five of Australia's crisis and information lines - Lifeline, Suicide Call Back Service, Kids Helpline, SANE Australia helpline and Beyond Blue info line.
Reach out to someone. A conversation could change a life.