Saturday, 12 January 2013

Are School Days the Best Days of Your Life?




My gorgeous boy, is off to school in a couple of weeks.

He is uber excited and feels he is all grown up.

I am excited for him. In the first year of school they learn so much don’t they?

With the two girls, I felt they were ready for school. I had no hesitation. They needed what school could provide. They needed the stimulation; they wanted to learn. I felt fine, a little sad, I think a few small tears were shed, when I settled them in that first day. I knew they were going to thrive, and they did.

Maybe it is the stage of my life I am in at the moment. Yes maybe I am getting a bit old. Maybe it is because he is my little boy. But the thought of that first day, leaving him there, makes my eyes fill with tears, even now. I don’t know how I am going to cope that first day.

Yes, they learn a lot. They learn that kids can be cruel. They learn that life isn't fair. They learn that there are people in the world who are bullies.

This is my sweet little man. His smile is open and loving and trusting. I am very protective of him. Does it show?

I try very hard not to let my own experiences of my school days, affect the kids. I hated it. I hated the cliques. The popular group versus the ones who wore the wrong shoes, the wrong clothes, brought the wrong lunch to school. I was the victim of bullies, because of my shyness.

I know that I shouldn't project. My kids are different to me. How they deal with different things will be and is different to how I dealt with things when I was their age.



What have been your experiences when your little ones started school? Are boys more likely to tug at your heart strings? Are they harder to let go? Has it been your first child or your last child that has affected you more?


Melanie


6 comments:

  1. Hey Mel, my son did his first year of school last year. He loves school and did really well. It was my first experience with a child at school and at first it was strange knowing that someone else was teaching him and not me. I used to take pride in teaching him new things, but now I cant keep up with all the things he learnt while attending school. I found that my role as a mum changed. I didn't like that. 3 hours after school is all I have with my son each day, and an hour before.. Makes me want to hold on to him all the more!

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    1. You just want to hug them. You love them so much! Thanks Melissa for your lovely comment. x

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  2. When my first child started School, I hated it. She was fine. Loved it, in fact, but she was so little, easily the smallest in the class and her birthday was only the January... Some of the children were up to eighteen months older and I felt that urge to adopt their own decision to start her later...But she was bright, emotionally ready, sociable..and I was almost 6 months pregnant with my second child, so I let her go...it was hard, but I got through it...My eldest turned 12 just last week and is about to start Grade 6 and I know I will feel just as sad(and fiercely protective)when she starts high School... Like you, Melanie, I had some bad experiences, more at High School than Primary, and was badly bullied... I was slightly over-weight, not good at Sports, wrote Poetry(a big no-no!)and wore the 'wrong' clothes... When my second child started school, I had a 3 1/2 year old and a 2 year old to chase and I have to admit I was a little relieved to have the 'load' lessened slightly, as much as I adore my second daughter and as guilty as that makes me feel for saying it... My third daughter is about to start school and I have mixed feelings. I am looking forward to having one at home and having more one-on-one which can be hard to find with four children, but this is still my baby girl, heading off to school... With my youngest, I have to admit the thought makes me feel quite ill...He will start 3 year old Kinder this year, just for two hours once a week and he will love that, but the thought of him heading off to school makes me feel quite nauseous actually... I don't think it is because he is my only son, I think it is because he is my last 'baby', and when he sets off, I will have to admit I don't really have a 'baby' any more... The simple fact is that all of us will see our youngest child off to school at some stage. I am 41, too old I think to have a fifth child and we can never escape that passage of time, any way...Just as we can never forget the smell of our baby's skin, that feel of holding them in our arms for the first time, and that over-whelming protectiveness that never goes away...

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    1. It is hard isn't it. But I do know that he will love all the painting and crafts. He loves to create things. Time seems to go so quickly, and it is getting quicker the older I get! The saying that a piece of your heart is now walking around outside your body, is very true. Thanks for your wonderful comment. x

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  3. When my first child started School, I hated it. She was fine. Loved it, in fact, but she was so little, easily the smallest in the class and her birthday was only the January... Some of the children were up to eighteen months older and I felt that urge to adopt their own decision to start her later...But she was bright, emotionally ready, sociable..and I was almost 6 months pregnant with my second child, so I let her go...it was hard, but I got through it...My eldest turned 12 just last week and is about to start Grade 6 and I know I will feel just as sad(and fiercely protective)when she starts high School... Like you, Melanie, I had some bad experiences, more at High School than Primary, and was badly bullied... I was slightly over-weight, not good at Sports, wrote Poetry(a big no-no!)and wore the 'wrong' clothes... When my second child started school, I had a 3 1/2 year old and a 2 year old to chase and I have to admit I was a little relieved to have the 'load' lessened slightly, as much as I adore my second daughter and as guilty as that makes me feel for saying it... My third daughter is about to start school and I have mixed feelings. I am looking forward to having one at home and having more one-on-one which can be hard to find with four children, but this is still my baby girl, heading off to school... With my youngest, I have to admit the thought makes me feel quite ill...He will start 3 year old Kinder this year, just for two hours once a week and he will love that, but the thought of him heading off to school makes me feel quite nauseous actually... I don't think it is because he is my only son, I think it is because he is my last 'baby', and when he sets off, I will have to admit I don't really have a 'baby' any more... The simple fact is that all of us will see our youngest child off to school at some stage. I am 41, too old I think to have a fifth child and we can never escape that passage of time, any way...Just as we can never forget the smell of our baby's skin, that feel of holding them in our arms for the first time, and that over-whelming protectiveness that never goes away...

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  4. When my first child headed off to school, I hated it. She was fine, loved it in fact, but she was easily the smallest in the class and I felt so fiercely protective... There were a couple of children who were around 18 months older than her, and most were at least 6 months older, and I felt like following their parents' example and starting her later... But she was emotionally ready, out-going and sociable...and I was almost 6 months pregnant with my second child, so I let her go... She is about to start Grade 6 now and I know I will feel exactly the same when she starts High School next year... That worries me a bit more, in fact, because I think the peer pressure gets so much worse in High School and I had a horrible time myself back in the eighties with bullying. I was a little bit overweight, bad at Sports, wrote Poetry(a HUGE no-no!)and wore the wrong clothes...
    By the time my second daughter started School, I had a 3 1/2 year old and a 2 year old, to chase, and was quite glad to have the load lessened a little, as much as I adore my second daughter and as guilty as it makes me feel for saying it...It was honestly just a numbers thing! My third daughter starts school this year and I have mixed feelings about it. It will be nice to have my youngest child, Master 3, to myself a bit more, because it is hard to find one-on-one time with any child when you have four, but this is still my baby girl... My son will start 3 year old Kinder this year, just for two hours once a week, but the thought of him going to school in a couple of years absolutely terrifies me, makes me feel quite ill, in fact. I don't think it's because he is my only son, I think it is because he is my 'baby', and when he starts school, I will have to admit that I don't really have a 'baby' any more...At 41, I think I am too old to plan having a fifth and that would still not halt the passage of time, any way. Eventually, we will all have to see our last child off to school... But none of us will ever forget the smell of our baby's skin as we held them close and breathed in that incredible scent, or that feeling of holding them for the first time and that rush of over-whelming love and protectiveness that came over us and that will never, ever leave us...

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